September 29, 2014

George Clooney & Those Gay Rumours

Actor/activist George Clooney is back in the headlines this weekend for his Venice wedding to human rights lawyer Amal Alamuddin... not that he has been out of the headlines for the last decade or two.

Long one of Hollywood's "confirmed bachelors" despite a string of starlet and model girlfriends, there were gay rumours that circulated around his apparent refusal to marry.

Clooney took part in the marriage equality play 8 in 2012, and his he took on those rumours at the same time. His answer was awesome....

The gay rumor has followed you for years.
I think it’s funny, but the last thing you’ll ever see me do is jump up and down, saying, “These are lies!” That would be unfair and unkind to my good friends in the gay community. I’m not going to let anyone make it seem like being gay is a bad thing. My private life is private, and I’m very happy in it. Who does it hurt if someone thinks I’m gay? I’ll be long dead and there will still be people who say I was gay. I don’t give a shit.

When did you decide to get involved in the fight for marriage equality?
It’s always been this albatross that stood out to me as the final leg of the civil rights movement. It really came to a head during the 2004 elections, when it was used as a wedge issue, and it was a very effective tool to keep the Republicans in office and to avoid talking about other issues. Well before Prop. 8, I’ve made the point that every time we’ve stood against equality, we’ve been on the wrong side of history. It’s the same kind of argument they made when they didn’t want blacks to serve in the military, or when they didn’t want blacks to marry whites. One day the marriage equality fight will look as archaic as George Wallace standing on the University of Alabama steps keeping James Hood from attending college because he was black. People will be embarrassed to have been on the wrong side. So it’s encouraging to know that this too will seem like such a silly argument to our next generation. There are even a lot of young conservatives today for whom marriage equality isn’t an issue. It always takes government an extra generation to catch up to the people.

What can we say? Smart, talented, started on The Facts of Life, works to make the world a better place... YAY George!

September 25, 2014

New Fall TV Season Report Card

As I write this we are watching the much-hyped series premiere of How To Get Away With Murder, the new show from Scandal creator Shonda Rhimes. So far, looks like will be addictive....

The big networks still operate on a traditional school-year type TV season, and they are now mid launch of the new season.

Gotta say with Netflix movies on my computer and NextIssue magazines on my iPad, I care less what the big networks do...

Still, with PVR and on-demand I have been able to catch a fair sampling of what has been on, so here's the best and worst of what has launched and returned so far:


Mysteries of Laura
Super talented Will & Grace star Debra Messing is a single mom and rogue police officer in a generic cop show, which will be her third series to fail since W&G ended... gone by Christmas.

Former Today show and The View host Meredith Viera launches her own daily talk show; I watched 20 minutes last week and was embarrassed for her. Will be gone faster than you can remember the last big daytime bomb Katie.

The View
Returning Rosie O'Donnell, who I usually love, dominates as though she is both moderator and last word on all subject..  it's too much pushy Rosie. Granted, it's better than last year's Jenny McCarthy train wreck but still awkward.  Whoopi looks bored, the two newbies look uncomfortable.

The Batman origin series is beautifully, expensively shot, and yet predictable and empty. Glad I saw the premiere, no need to watch it again.

New Girl
The season premiere was awkward and unfunny. These writers are out of stories. Put this one out to pasture already.


The Good Wife
While most series peter out after a few years, The Good Wife hit a creative high last year in season five, and roared back with a smart twisty suspenseful season six premiere this week... the best show on TV.

The Big Bang Theory
Brilliant nerds who are always funny. Love it.

The season premiere was less crazy than last year but still as suspenseful and surprising. Addictive.

Surprisingly funny sitcom, and less preachy than expected, about a modern black family where the father worries his kids may not be black enough.

Madame Secretary
Solid if non-explosive premiere, with Tea Loni as fake Hillary Clinton... great potential to become a political Good Wife. Or maybe the next Commander In Chief* (* a failed Geena Davis as first female president series).

The verdict is still out on Nashville and The Mindy Project who had 'meh' debuts, and I am not even gonna try the CSI or NCIS spin-off's... I have all the episodes of Outlander on my PVR and haven't watched one yet.

What are you watching?

August 23, 2014

Who should & will win Emmy awards...

Monday night is the 827th Primetime Emmy Awards, honouring what the television academy thinks is the best in prime time TV from the 2013-2014 school year.

On the upside, my secret boyfriend Seth Meyers is hosting this year. On the downside, the show tends to be somewhat dull.

While I do watch more than my share of TV, with time shifting (hey, we get Jimmy Fallon at 9.30 PM), and Netflix, and PVR and VOD, I tend to miss or avoid most of the real prime time programming.

Here are the nominees and my picks for the major awards.... what are your faves?

Best Comedy Series
Big Bang Theory
Modern Family
Orange Is The New Black
Silicon Valley
Should win: I love Big Bang, and also loving Veep in binge sessions on airplanes
Will win: the buzzy Orange Is The New Black, which I don't love and don't think of as a comedy 

Best Drama Series
Breaking Bad
Downton Abbey
Game of Thrones
House of Cards
Mad Men
True Detective
Should win: The not even nominated The Good Wife, so then the terrific season 2 of House Of Cards
Will win: The buzzy final season of Breaking Bad (which granted I have not seen)

Best Actor, Drama
Bryan Cranston, Breaking Bad
Jeff Daniels, The Newsroom
Kevin Spacey, House of Cards
Jon Hamm, Mad Men
Matthew McConaughey, True Detective
Woody Harrelson, True Detective

Should win: Spacey for House of Cards (especially as James Spader wasn't even nominated for The Black List)
Will win: McConaughey for True Detective (haven't seen, this is his year for Oscar and Emmy and the world)

Best Actress, Drama
Michelle Dockery, Downton Abbey
Claire Danes, Homeland
Robin Wright, House of Cards
Kerry Washington, Scandal
Julianna Margulies, The Good Wife
Lizzy Caplan, Masters of Sex
Should and will win: Robin Wright for her masterful work in House of Cards

Best Actor, Comedy
Jim Parsons, The Big Bang Theory
Matt LeBlanc, Episodes
Don Cheadle, House of Lies
Louis C.K., Louie
William H. Macy, Shameless
Ricky Gervais, Derek

Should and will win: among a weak list, Big Bang's Parsons will get his 4th win in this category 

Best Actress, Comedy
Lena Dunham, Girls 
Edie Falco, Nurse Jackie
Amy Poehler, Parks and Recreation
Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Veep
Melissa McCarthy, Mike & Molly
Taylor Schilling, Orange Is the New Black 

Should win: Poehler for the subtle and very funny Parks
Will win: Emmy record holder and repeat winner Louis-Dreyfus

Other "Best" TV: There are lots of other categories and nominees, I am hoping for these winners...
The Normal Heart for best TV movie
Christine Baranski, best supporting actress in a drama for The Good Wife
Jim Carter, best supporting actor in a drama for Downton Abbey
Allison Janney, best supporting actress in a comedy for Mom
Jesse Tyler Ferguson, best supporting actor in a comedy for Modern Family
Actors from The Normal Heart: Matt Bomer, Mark Ruffalo, Julia Roberts

Some call-outs to the amazingly overlooked at nomination time: Bellamy Young for Scandal, James Spader for The Blacklist, The Good Wife for best drama series. and the cast and total show of The Mindy Project.

What were your faves of the year?

August 16, 2014

Remembering Robin Williams...

Oscar winning actor and legendary stand-up comedian Robin Williams died last week, at his own hand after struggling with depression, addiction, and other health issues.

His death was shocking and sad, and has in the media and online worlds brought out the best and the worst ... look at Jimmy Fallon's touching tribute as an example of the best, and the venom spewed at Williams' daughter Zelda by internet trolls as the worst.

Maybe people will learn something about depression, or just about kindness, from all of this?

I loved Williams in everything from Mork and Mindy to Aladdin and Good Will Hunting and Mrs Doubtfire and The Birdcage and so many more...

To see his range, check out little seen gems like Insomnia and One-Hour Photo... the man was an incredible actor.

He also was by all accounts a kind and decent human being who did tons of charity and community work.

Here is a fun performance by Williams at the 2000 Academy Awards, when he was a surprise performer of best song nominee "Blame Canada" from the South Park movie...

Nanu Nanu, Mr Williams.

August 3, 2014

How To Survive A Normal Heart...

Much as I love escapist fluff entertainment -- hell, I am re-watching chick flick Confessions of A Shopaholic as I write this -- once in a blue moon a smart substantial film wows me.

Or sometimes twice in a blue moon.

I recently watched two AIDS-themed dramas that dazzled me, and caused me to shed some tears: How To Survive A Plague and The Normal Heart.

How To Survive A Plague is the 2012 Oscar-nominated documentary about the early days of the AIDS crisis and the beginning of activist groups like "Act Up" and their struggle to get recognition, assistance, caring or respect from the government, the media, and the medical establishment.

Plague is culled from hundreds of hours of arrived footage and is brilliantly woven together into a personal story. It is emotionally brutal and absolutely breathtaking.

It is available on demand, on Netflix and on DVD... gear yourself up and watch it.

The Normal Heart is the long-delayed film version (made for HBO this year) of Larry Kramer's seminal 1985 play on AIDS in the 80s, based on his own life. It's star studded cast includes Matt Bomer, Mark Ruffalo, Julia Roberts and Jim Parsons, and it is up for 16 Emmy awards at next month's ceremony.

Ruffalo is Ned Weeks, the Kramer-ish activist who rails against the politicians, reporters, doctors, and closeted gay men who ignore 'the gay cancer' in the early 80s while all his friends are dying...  and all while he is falling in love with a fashion reporter (Bomer) who will be struck by the disease. Their charming love story among all the suffering is amazing.

The Normal Heart is the anti-Philadelphia... it shows the disease, and the anger, and also the love and lust among the gay men at is centre. It is loud, lusty, messy, angry, and yes sometimes preachy.  And it works as a drama and as a history lesson.

Both films ask the question shouted by Weeks in The Normal Heart --- "Who cares if a faggot dies?" -- and both are mesmerizing. Watch them... but I do not recommend a double feature.

July 28, 2014

New TV fave... Vicious!

Sure it's summer TV rerun season, and most of the new programming out there is the level of America's Got Talent crap, however we have discovered a fantastic new sitcom... smart, funny, totally bitchy, we love it!

The show is called Vicious, and it is a BBC import that shows on PBS on Sunday nights (and is available on DVD).

In Vicious, Ian McKellen and Derek Jacobi are Freddie and Stuart, an elderly gay couple who have been together for 48 years and maintain a love/hate relationship... they are bitter and petty and bitchy and yes vicious to each other. And it is awesome.

I told my husband this was our future... his response was that this is our now.

Underneath Freddie's and Stuart's vicious co-dependency bickering they have a deep love for each other and it is sweet in it's own way. Joining in the fun every week are their lovelorn best friend Violet (Frances de la Tour, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows) and Ash (Iwan Rheon, Game of Thrones), their young, hot upstairs neighbour.

The first season of Vicious aired in the UK last year (it's only 6 episodes) and is on here now. A second season is coming later this year.

Check Vicious out... it is fast, it is funny, and let's face it, at this time of year your other options are Botched and Dance Moms.

July 17, 2014

41 Dog Facts...

Fun video from John Green, video blogger/educator, and oh yeah wrote a little book called The Fault In Our Stars....

... and I am totally down with Toto being better paid than the Munchkins were.

June 29, 2014

The Scarlet Letter Society...

In The Scarlet Letter Society, three smart successful women meet monthly for an early breakfast book club... not that unusual, until you realize that the books are all about women having extramarital affairs, and the women have this in common in their real lives as well.

As with most book clubs, the book talk is quickly abandoned for real life talk, and in this case sex and relationship talk. It is dishy and fun and insightful, and sometimes yes touching.

My bloggy buddy Mary McCarthy, semi-famous for Pajamas and Coffee,  has FINALLY published her first novel, and the timing is perfect... this is an ideal summer read, a fast, fun, sexy, chatty beach book.

Besides being a breezy read and interesting take on grown-up relationships, this Scarlet Letter is loaded with self aware pop culture references... a book with people talking about books, with poppy references from Sixteen Candles to the Eagles to Stevie Wonder to Erica Jong... if I didn't love my 70s and 80s shallow pop culture I may think was too much, but so not an issue for me at all... never enough!

In The Scarlet Letter Society, there is wit, there is humour, there is sex, and most importantly there are three women who think they're slutty but may just be lonely; okay, one of them is totally slutty, but in a wonderfully charming bi-curious kind of way.

Between monthly book club breakfasts we follow each woman's life; Eva the lonely attorney with a chef on the side, Maggie the vintage retailer with her ex on the side, and Lisa the baker with a different kind of secret. You will come to adore them all.

And yes there is a totally fabulous gay best friend, who has a totally sweet gay wedding to his boyfriend ALFRED!

Put this one on top of your summer reading list, and spend some time with these fun, fascinating, fidelity-challenged women, and their friends and lovers, in The Scarlet Letter Society...

Disclaimer: the publisher sent me a digital copy of this book. This review is my own, no compensation was received.  Jelly beans would have been nice.

June 22, 2014

Cher tomorrow!

It's almost here…. 

Tomorrow we see Cher and Cyndi Lauper live in concert (okay, okay, sort of live, as there may be some Cher lip syncing involved).

I love Cher, have seen her twice before, she puts on an amazing show…. and her 'comeback' album from last year, Closer To The Truth, is fantastic in a glitzy touching over-produced danceable-with-some-sadness kind of way… so totally Cher!

Believe... If I Could Turn Back Time... Gypsies, Tramps And Thieves... Woman's World... Song For The Lonely... Dark Lady... Half Breed... You Haven't Seen The Last Of Me...

Bring on Cher!

June 14, 2014

2 Great Gay Flicks On Netflix...

So while yes insomnia totally sucks, there are ways to handle it... drugs, exercise, hypnosis... I don't do any of them when I can't sleep. I read or watch TV. Usually I choose chopper gadget infomercials or  Golden Girls reruns, but this week I chose Netflix... and discovered they are showing two recent acclaimed gay films I had read about but never had access to before. Both are awesome.

Stranger By The Lake, France, 2013 (English subtitles)

This sexual thriller is unlike anything I have seen before... at first I was thinking "what's the big deal" and then I was holding on to the edge of my seat to see what would happen next.

The whole film takes place within a few days on a gay cruising beach. Franck is an out gay man who goes there looking for conversations, sex, and maybe love, unlike the other mostly closeted beachgoers just looking for anonymous sex in the woods.

This is a beautifully shot work, with the lake and nearby woods by day and by night being postcard gorgeous. In more ways than just the scenery, the film overall is beguiling... and oh yeah, good to note, very sexually explicit.

Franck becomes enchanted with Michel, another attractive man who spends his afternoons at the beach having sex with different men. He then realizes Michel has a possessive boyfriend. And while watching them from a distance, he sees Michel deliberately drown the boyfriend. Franck knows he should report this to the police, but is so infatuated he keeps quiet and starts getting involved with Michel. And two days later the body is discovered and police start interviewing all the closeted men at the cruising park, which you know is not gonna go well. And the mystery evolves...

This is an original, suspenseful, explicit, dark and twisty thriller. Highly recommended.

Gayby, USA, 2012

This one is much lighter fare, the story of a gay man and straight woman who are best friends and decide to have a baby together. Sure this store has been done before -- hell, Jennifer Aniston and Madonna each did it in a couple of crappy films fifteen years ago -- but Gayby is fresh and fun. It's a bitchier, more vulgar Will and Grace.

Writer-director-actor Jonathan Lisecki's tale of thirty something BF's Mat and Jenn agreeing to try to have a baby together — he's gay and recently single, she's straight and loveless — is as fast and  quippy as you expect a movie built around dry, neurotic, yoga-loving, comic-book-reading New Yorkers to be.
Gayby's warmth and character development lift it above sitcom status. The actors are highly appealing as they move from awkward sexual coupling to awkward fertility treatment, while simultaneously navigating new romantic possibilities outside their arrangement.
Gayby is funny and charming... see it.

May 14, 2014

Dolly Parton Talks About Gay Marriage...

I adore 9 to 5 icon Dolly Parton, from her endless talent to her amazing community work to her bawdy humour, she wins all around for me. Even like the plastic surgery and how she openly talks about it. Like her enough to forget about that crappy movie with Sylvester Stallone... almost.

I have lots of her music in my car for road trips... love it!

Parton is out on a media blitz promoting her new album Blue Smoke, and was asked about marriage equality.

Same-sex marriage might not be recognized in Dolly Parton's native Tennessee, but the outspoken Parton, herself married for almost fifty years,  supports equality for all. 
"I didn’t know any gay people in my childhood. I do have a lot of gays in my family now, but some will never come out," the singer, who was one of 12 children in a Pentecostal family living in Locust Ridge, Tenn., told Britain's Event magazine.
"I think everyone should be with who they love," Parton, 68, continued. "I don’t want to be controversial or stir up a bunch of trouble but people are going to love who they are going to love. I think gay couple should be allowed to marry. They should suffer just like us heterosexuals. Ha ha ha!"

May 9, 2014

10 Reasons To Oppose Marriage Equality...

Making fun of people who oppose gay rights just got a whole lot easier...

The sad/scary part is that some people use a serious take on these arguments!

May 6, 2014

Listen To The Squawking Chicken...

I have been an avid reader since I was a kid -- fiction, histories, business books, auto-biographies, almost everything except war stuff. And while I am always waiting eagerly for the next Sue Grafton mystery, I am currently on an autobiography frenzy, and last week's read was Elaine Lui's Listen To The Squawking Chicken.

Elaine Lui is a social media icon in Canada -- blogging as "Lainey" at, appearing on E-talk television (our low rent version of Entertainment Tonight) and co-hosting The Social (our low-rent version of The View). Lainey is always a hoot -- she is smart and fast and funny and bitchy and totally awesome.

And while Lainey is fast and funny and bitchy, I excepted the same from her autobiography. I was wrong. While Squawking Chicken is interesting and fascinating, it is not funny or bitchy... it is more passive and dysfunctional, like a Chinese-Canadian traffic accident I could not look away from.

Lainey's "Squawking Chicken" is her overbearing mother, who she lived away from for many years and who was -- and apparently still is --- controlling, judgemental and dictatorial. Lainey talks about being "feng shui blackmailed" and "shamed" through her life.

Laine has lived an interesting life and -- as she always does - has interesting stories to tell. She seems to know that her mother's behaviour is abnormal and controlling and socially unacceptable and yet she accepts and somehow condones it. Weird. Interesting to read though.

My issue with the story -- not the book, which I zoomed through, but the story itself -- is that strong outspoken Lainey has a Stockholm Syndrome-y thing going on when it comes to justifying her mother's behaviour. She rationalizes the Squawking Chicken's humiliating remarks, excessive meddling, demands for money, over-the-top control, imposition of superstitious beliefs, and  condemning attitude towards everyone. The woman is damaged and mean.

I guess all families are weird in their own way, and Lainey's is not an exception. While this dysfunction is disturbing, Lainey is a strong writer and her story is interesting to read about... now bring on the next book, Lainey, and make it dishy and funny!

May 4, 2014

Beware The Gay Mafia!

Yep, I went there, from the Mozilla CEO scandal to the furor over a new book by a Pulitzer-Prize winning writer... is there a gay mafia?

Click through to read my post...