Comments on alfred lives here: Husband. Partner. Spouse.

How about "Love of My Life?"

2010-02-13T10:07:01.669-07:00

How about "Love of My Life?"

Thanks, Princess, and yes totally legal here -- in...

2010-02-08T11:13:54.910-07:00

Thanks, Princess, and yes totally legal here -- in some provinces for many years, and country wide since 2003...

And we can also serve in the military... not that I want to.

I didn't know gays could get married in Canada...

2010-02-08T06:09:55.688-07:00

I didn't know gays could get married in Canada! That's awesome! I voted against the ban in my very conservative southern state.....even though I knew it was a futile effort. *sigh* I say call him whatever you damn well please! (I call my husband my prince. But we're not really royalty. *wink*) Best wishes in your upcoming married life. *smooches™

Brahm, I wish you and K much happiness.

2010-02-05T21:26:28.042-07:00

Brahm, I wish you and K much happiness.

the trying to decide who's popcorn machine to ...

2010-02-01T20:54:30.983-07:00

the trying to decide who's popcorn machine to keep CRACKED ME UP.

that's awesome.

kelly

I think 'spouse' sounds good. I pasted sy...

2010-02-01T07:18:46.092-07:00

I think 'spouse' sounds good. I pasted synonyms below. Mate? He-mate? He-spouse?
Are either/both of you changing names? Hyphenating?
Congratulations and Best wishes to you both.
Greg

Main Entry: spouse
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: one of a married couple
Synonyms:
better half, bride, companion, groom, helpmate, husband, man, mate, partner, roommate, wife, woman

Great comments all, and thanks for the congrats......

2010-01-30T19:21:19.048-07:00

Great comments all, and thanks for the congrats... we are of course very excited heading into the spring (yep I am in northern Canada and pretending there is no effing winter)... and ooh, "the hubster" is a new and interesting one!

Congrats! I think "Husband" is the perfe...

2010-01-30T15:11:04.532-07:00

Congrats! I think "Husband" is the perfect choice. Once the novelty wears off, you can simply call him "Hub" or "The Hubster." Just so long as you never start using the term "The Old Ball 'n Chain," LOL!

Call it whatcha want you guys are just HAWT! (I me...

2010-01-30T13:00:52.762-07:00

Call it whatcha want you guys are just HAWT! (I mean, i'm still the other woman...) Wish I was invited to the BRUNCH because I would totally come up to America's hat...I mean...CANADA for that! ;) xo and smoochy congrats in advance!!

I prefer husband and husband, but you need to find...

2010-01-30T11:12:31.216-07:00

I prefer husband and husband, but you need to find what makes both of you comfortable. Best wishes on your upcoming marriage 4 months isnt that far off.

Congrats as well on the upcoming wedding. I'm ...

2010-01-30T01:40:06.274-07:00

Congrats as well on the upcoming wedding. I'm sure it will be a fantastic party and I wish you both a lifetime of happiness.

I'm not sure what to say regarding the labels you'll use after you are married. I think each couple has to find something that suits them and they are comfortable with. I think "partner" sounds the most neutral, or perhaps my "significant other". But in the end, screw the labels and just focus on the union :)

My spouse and I were one of the first man couples ...

2010-01-28T21:00:59.936-07:00

My spouse and I were one of the first man couples in BC to get hitched. In fact, they didn't even have marriage certificates yet for same sex couples, so I ended up filling my name in the "bride" heading. HA. I'm so not a bride.

We both us different terms at different times and in different situations, depending on whether the person we're talking to needs to know the particulars of our life.

In normal, everyday life he's my husband. If I'm referring to him to someone I don't know and gender isn't an issue I use the term spouse. I once had a woman ask me what my wife thought of something, and I said I don't have a wife. She said the ring on my finger says otherwise. I said the ring on my finger says I'm married but it doesn't say what the gender of my spouse is. 'nuff said.

Tom's not as "out" as me, especially in a corporate structure, and doesn't have the same comfort level talking about it to people he doesn't know. So for him, it's usually spouse, sometimes partner when marital status isn't relevent but usually never husband.

Whatever works for either of you is the proper term to use. There are no laws, no societal rules. Just enjoy your lives together and don't sweat the labels.

Congrats, best wishes, have a long and happy life together. We've been married 6 years, together for 9. Marriage is what you make of it, but don't let anyone else tell you what you should make of it and what to call the other. We didn't feel compelled to change our names, hyphonate, combine names. Husbands rarely take on the others name, though when my niece got married her husband took her name, he thought it was less weird then his. Whatever.

Husband absolutely! I'm thrilled for you and...

2010-01-28T19:54:54.505-07:00

Husband absolutely! I'm thrilled for you and wish you every happiness in the world. Does Alfred get to be the ring bearer? Surely, he's outfitted for a tux?

Awe. How sweet, honey.

2010-01-28T19:21:03.926-07:00

Awe. How sweet, honey.

I totally understand how you feel. I've been ...

2010-01-28T17:44:25.069-07:00

I totally understand how you feel. I've been married to Colin for 7 years and I still "cringe" when I refer to him as "husband." For some reason, it just doesn't fit exactly. But since there are no alternative labels that matches the word "husband," then husband it is.

All the best to you and your loved ones on your special day.

Congrats on the upcoming nuptials. Whatever you ch...

2010-01-28T12:20:33.761-07:00

Congrats on the upcoming nuptials. Whatever you choose to call him I think just depends on what you want and what works best for you.

Ummm... that's a tricky one, but then if you h...

2010-01-28T12:02:57.766-07:00

Ummm... that's a tricky one, but then if you have to use a label, a husband will be the most appropriate! :)

Best wishes for the marriage. I bet you are excited :)

What a wonderful post! Best wishes for your upcom...

2010-01-28T08:23:27.400-07:00

What a wonderful post! Best wishes for your upcoming marriage. The plans sound great. Thinking of the "Mr. and Mr.", are you going to join names? Hyphenate?

I'm looking forward to photos of the big day!

I don't see why you shouldn't call him you...

2010-01-28T07:53:06.805-07:00

I don't see why you shouldn't call him your husband. Because that's what he'll be, yes? I've been married for 5 years, and it's still weird sometimes when I hear my husband call me his wife. It's always like, oh yeah, right, we're married now. (after being together unmarried for 7)

I work with a man married to a man and I think the...

2010-01-28T07:43:17.057-07:00

I work with a man married to a man and I think the rest of us were more uncomfortable about how to refer to his partner. They call each other husband.

We got married in Vancouver BC, on our 25th annive...

2010-01-28T06:55:42.258-07:00

We got married in Vancouver BC, on our 25th anniversary as a couple... after the ceremony, attended by our 2 best men, we drove to Seattle 9where we had lived for 20 years) & had a party at former neighbor's house for 50 friends & family. We refer to each other as HUSBAND. At first I was uncomfortable, but now it rolls of the tongue & just seems right.

Congrats on your impending nuptials!
How does Alfred feel about all this?

Yes, I'd probably plump for husband too. I ho...

2010-01-28T05:28:21.968-07:00

Yes, I'd probably plump for husband too.

I hope that the coming four months are enjoyable and the years afterwards are heaven-sent.

Thanks for stopping by my place recently - it's always nice to welcome new faces and hear new thoughts.