Valentine's Day. A financial bonanza for greeting card makers, jewellers, and Victoria's Secret... and then what the hell about the rest of us?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not bitter (this year). This will be a really nice Valentine's; it is my second with K, we have come a long way since last year, and we are now planning our wedding. The day will start off with breakfast and then a meeting with the architect designing our house, and end with a beautiful dinner at a luxe restaurant. Ok, come to think of it, not sure what the hell will do with the seven or so hours between meeting and dinner... crap, gotta think of something...
What is Valentine's Day about?
- Spending time with your loved one. I already do that.
- Buying a pink and red card? Yep can do that -- and by the way, Hallmark is missing a big gay opportunity there for same-sex Valentines (homophobic pricks).
- Giving a great gift? He is getting an effing awesome one.
- Buying red roses at jacked-up prices? Not so much a fan.
- Taking time to ensure your loved one feels special and appreciated? Always a good thing, which yes I try to do more of (and so should all of you).Truth be told, until now I have never been a huge fan of Valentine's Day. I have had many years as a single Valentine, a couple of years with guys who I probably should not have been with, and a time or two with assholes.
Being single on Valentine's Day was not fun. You want to be happy for your paired-up friends, those lucky bastards, while numbing yourself with stuffed-crust pizza and cough syrup. It was like being the only Jew at Christmas - you all get a friggin holiday and I am not invited?
I am in a terrific relationship, so why whine about Valentine's Day? Seems like a douchebag gloating to those people who want relationships and don't have them. We should already have an anniversary as "our day", why should we all get Feb 14th as a secondary anniversary? We eat too much chocolate already, and a cheesy card is not going to get you married or get you laid.
This year, I am going to be a happy-in-a-relationship-ha-ha-ha douchebag and enjoy Valentine's Day if for no other reason that it prompted us to take a break from our busy lives and schedule a dinner out just the two of us. K and I will have a nice Valentine's Day because we always enjoy our time together. The gift is a practical one, and I think something that he really wants, and it is impressively huge (not that size matters).
I have someone great in my life, and should celebrate him everyday. For those who don't, they may have hurt feelings and feel bitter and left out. That is not a holiday model that works. I will work harder to show my love and affection everyday, and then we can come up with something new and better to celebrate every February.
And then once we fix this, let's tackle Labour Day...