January 22, 2011

Wedding Ring Number 4...

Eight months ago tomorrow, K and I were married... and hey, look, Sarah Palin, the planet didn't burst into flames when two adult men got hitched!

We had a terrific wedding day, and more importantly I have been incredibly fortunate in marriage. I have not had such luck with wedding rings. Those little bastards taunt and torment me. Until now.

Prior to our wedding, we had beautiful silver Tiffany commitment rings and engagement rings. All went well.

For our wedding, we bought matching white gold bands with three small diamonds in the middle. Very classic, with some sparkle. Our nieces were ringbearers and were absolutely adorable.

Ring #1: Five days into our honeymoon, the trouble began. I was putting my ring on that morning, and thought "hot damn, this thing got really dirty". Uh, no, a diamond fell out. After we returned home, they replaced that ring. Having your wedding ring fall apart on day five isn't an omen, is it?

Ring #2: Replacement ring, just like the first, except it seemed tighter, and I got this slight reaction to it, and then a bigger reaction to it, and then yes there was a very brief very painful hospital visit to get the damn thing off. On the upside, the doctors were hot. Read about that misadventure here: http://tinyurl.com/4bfoe7l

Ring #3
: As I am not smart enough to learn from the past, and because I urgently wanted my damn wedding ring, we waited a few weeks for the swelling to go down and then took another run at it. Ring 3 was just like its predecessors, only a bit larger. Which means it took longer for the reaction to start, and then I stubbornly waited longer to do something about it, and I ended up in hospital while on vacation, getting hopped up on painkillers as they lubed up my finger to prep for the round saw forceps gizmo. Thank heavens for extensive healthcare coverage. Fun, fun, fun.

The various doctors and jewellers in this comic soap opera think it is an allergic reaction to something, likely the white gold, which due to its nickel content causes a reaction for one in eight people (thank you, Wikipedia). Who knew?

Ring #4:
So it has now been about three months without a ring and I was eager for a new one. We went out last weekend to a local jeweller who makes everything himself on site. I decided not to have a nickel-free version made of the same ring, but to start fresh and go in a totally different direction, with a simple hammered gold wedding band. That's it in the picture above.

So yes, eight months in and wedding ring number four. And I love it... take that, cursed white gold allergy evil devil omen!

31 comments:

yona c. riel said...

ahhh, so sweet, glad it's working out... love that story....

Kevin said...

Finally! Proof you are married to me.

Kevin said...

My mother is happy.

Lauren said...

Glad you found one that works for you! It is working right?

Jewell said...

Ok...first, while I read your posts every day...I haven't actually been to the site in some time. LOVE the changes to the blog...

Secondly...I hate white gold on principle. I am gold girl all the way. I have to say - I adore your new wedding ring!! It's absolutely beautiful! This gentleman did a wonderful job!

Mads said...

haha I loved this post. I have the same nickel affliction and it sucks. I can never wear cheap earrings, but I don't know if that's necessarily a bad thing. ;)

The Absence of Alternatives said...

I love this ring. One of a kind too! I think it is fate/destiny/predestined and that's why you had to go thru all that pain to get to the perfect one.

Congratulations again. I remember reading about the wedding and the photos. Lovely.

Rusty Hoe said...

I think it bodes very well for the future that you were wiling to persevere for that little ring that means so much.

PS Nickle sucks and not just in jewelery (though I tell my husband it just means I have to get better jewelery, for medicinal purposes of course). Those little electrodes they stick on your chest for and ecg have it in them and I always end up covered in red circular welts so I look like I have a bad case of ring worm. Sexy stuff.

Gigi said...

What a beautiful ring! This is the one you were meant to have.

tokenblogger said...

Yellow gold is my favorite. And the new ring is great looking!

injaynesworld said...

It's perfect. Happy Eighth Month Anniversary, my friend.

Ray's Cowboy said...

Congrats to both of you. I do wished both of you the best. ANy pictures of you and the hubby?

Ray

Kristy said...

Congrats to you! That looks like a hardy ring. Should work well. Thanks for the follow. You are charming, I shall follow you!

k9 said...

WEll..your story is very funny i liked the way you presented it. m glad that the new one is working well now.
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falltoclimb said...

Ooooh, classy. I like. Fourth time's a charm, yes?

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@ Yona --- thanks for visiting and the kind words!

@ Kevin --- yes, proof we are married, like the little card we both carry around! And glad your mother is happy, maybe she will bake us an apple pie?

@ Lauren --- yep, have been wearing this ring for a week and no inflamed purple finger. woo hoo!

@ Jewell --- thanks for reading and visiting, and I love your taste in sparkly things!

@ Madds --- you have the nickel allergy also? I actually didnt know i had it before this. Could have saved some dinero on rings if I did!

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@ Absence --- thanks so much for your kind words, and yes I agree this was the way it was supposed to end up.

@ Rusty --- that sounds really rough, glad I just had rings that were my nickel pain.

@ Gigi and @ Token --- thanks I love the ring, things work out the way they are supposed to!

@ Jayne - thanks so much, always a pleasure to read your stuff and see your comments!

@ Ray --- if you havent seen them, I did do posts of wedding pics in late May, pls search under "wedding" on this site.

@ Kristy --- thanks, following your stuff also. Good reads!

@ K9 --- thanks for stopping by and commenting!

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@ Fall --- yep, fourth time is a charm for rings! First time is a charm for husbands, so far (ha ha ha)!

bmat10 said...

You carry cards that say you are married?

...And one ring shall rule them all!

Alli said...

I have that nickel problem too, but it started after my son was born. The only problem is, having kids strapped our jewelry budget so I didn't get a replacement ring...yet! Maybe I'll go mention it to my husband right now.

By the way, I want to hug your dog. Like, forever. He's just way too cute.

Clipped Wings said...

When I first saw your title I thought it meant 4 marriages, ha ha. Your final ring is a worthy band for a marriage so fortunate. Thoroughly enjoyed reading your humorous account of a not so funny series of events.

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@ Brian --- yes, we have govt-issued marriage cards, like a health care card. Anyone can get them, was suggested we do so when travelling outside the country, will be no question or dispute that are married. And like the Lord of the Rings reference!

@ Alli --- go tell your husband, solid gold is what he shoudl get you! And I will give Alfredo a hug for you, he is curled up against my leg. Snoring loudly.

@ Clipped --- thanks, glad you enjoyed reading it!

Greg said...

It's a beautiful ring. I'm glad things finally seemed to work out.

the 4 Bs said...

what an ordeal with the rings. i really like this last one. i hope it works for you!

Barbra Joan said...

Congrats to you both! The best of luck! love your post, love Alfred, and thanks for stopping by... bj

Aunt Juicebox said...

Very nice! I'm glad you're happy with it, that's all that matters. My husband and I have matching silver celtic knot bands. I'm sick of them. lol I've been wearing another ring he gave me with diamonds and emeralds in it, but I'd like to get some new matching bands.

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@ Greg - thanks, and yes seems to finally be a ring I am not allergic to.

@ 4Bs - working so far, thanks so much for stopping by!

@ Barbra Joan - thanks for the kind words, and thanks for visiting here as well!

@ Aunt J - celtic knots are cool, and yes I agree, time for some new jewellery. Then again, when isn't?

TICKLEBEAR said...

better ring #4 than husband #4, no?!
:D~
HUGZ

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@ Ticklebear --- well put, better trouble with rings than trouble with husbands!

lovesmukiwa said...

Ok SHUT UP! We can get government issued married cards? Who knew!!!!
And where did you get your replacement rings? I lost mine and desperately want to replace it.

Brahm (alfred lives here) said...

@lovesmukiwa -- yep, those cards are cool. Ordered them with wedding certificate. And got the ring at Vandenburgs downtown in Manulife Place, where they make all their own jewellery and the service is amazing.

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